Shadow Talk

Why oh Why…….

Vesta — Sat, 17 Jul 2010 22:49:46 +0000

Hi all….. there is one thing baffling me……. We have a great opportunity to share thoughts, opinions on topics related to The Shadow Effect….. Why does one hide from this by posting scam messages re: some medication …….? Why do they hide from their true self…..? Why do they deny who they are by changing id and reposting same scam? It looks like someone really does need to sit down, watch the Shadow effect and read the books, do the worksheets and really understand their shadow self…… unfortunately unless they truly admit what they are doing, they will continue to spam discussion boards like this…….So sad they have nothing better to do………Wishing them love and hope oneday the discover their own integrity within themselves…..

Blessings…..

Just watched TSE

wolfie53 — Sun, 25 Oct 2009 06:53:58 +0000

So I just watched TSE and I understand the concept of forgiveness and I just want to know do you truly forgive yourself for every thought or action that you have had. I consider myself a compassionate person to others but when it comes to myself for some reason I cant get it in my head to forgive myself . I have forgiven alot of people especially my parents its just I cant get it to forgive myself. So after watching the movie I want to get to that place in mylife in this moment to forgive. So how do I truly begin?

Shadow Effect

AnnetteAben — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 16:34:50 +0000

Friday, September 4th my friend, Becky and Tracy gathered here at my home to watch TSE. As it was Becky’s copy, we felt honored to be included in her first viewing and no one really knew what to expect even though we sat down armed with tissues and our water bottles. From the first image to the last we sat transfixed. Familar faces (those teachers each of us knew as special) drove points home with poignant stories and we were equally impressed by the emotional energy shared by those we were meeting for the first time. I don’t remember precisely when it happened but soon I began to hear sniffling and tissues being used by my friends, their hearts were touched and as the emotions were running high, I wanted to give them their privacy. I, on the other hand, sat here cheering and whooping because I was feeling incredibly validated by what I was hearing not only from the guest teachers but Debbie’s wisdom. My throat lump came when the segment from the workshop came up and everyone was hugging and forgiving each other, at that point I felt a deeply compelling shadow choking the breath out of me. I was convinced no one would ever forgive me for anything that horrible. I sat there with those painful feelings for the rest of the film. As luck would have it fate lent a hand and when the credits were rolling, Becky made the comment that she wished there had been interviews with people who hurt people and not just those who were hurt. She felt it woudl help her to understand how this type of work helped those people deal with what they had done, perhaps turned their lives around as she really wanted to cultivate an understanding of those who victimized others. I took a deep breath and told her I could help her with that and with my two loving friends sitting there, I brought out my shadow. I wasn’t expecting to do this and even though there had been 30 + years since this time in my life it was as though I wore a banner speaking all manner of hatred against myself. I really don’t recall which one said it, I only remember hearing one of my buds pointing out that I denied myself happiness because I didn’t feel I deserved it. In that moment I saw how in so many ways I kept myself just always this side of happiness, how I would self sabotage and justify for reasons other than what the shadow represented. I had created a reality I could use as an excuse because I was terrified to face the real issue. Even though there was much forgiveness and permission for forgiveness that day, I am still reassuring myself that I am am forgiven and making strides to allow myself to be happy. After all these years it is like coming out of solitary confinement in a dungeon into the sunshine, an adjustment. Thank you, Debbie for your wisdom borne of pain has helped me find a new reason to be happy.

In gratitude and love, I send you PEACE! Annette

Shadow Effect

Paul Richards — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 02:20:05 +0000

Just finished the movie and I must say,”That this was enlightening and also confirmed a lot for me as well.

Enjoyed

The Shadow of Envy

drjason — Fri, 21 Aug 2009 07:59:04 +0000

by Dr. Jason Deitch, featured expert in The Shadow Effect

As we walked down the promenade we could practically smell the multi-million dollar paychecks Wall Street executives earn only steps from the other side of the iconic Brooklyn Bridge. My college roommate and I were reminiscing over the past 20 years since we were carefree college kids. We couldn’t help but reflect on the decisions we’ve made that led us down our respective career paths. Not that we were disappointed, it’s just as we stood there embracing the beauty of the most popular skyline in the world we were compelled to play our mutually frustrating game of ‘what if.’

What if I had made different decisions about my college major? What if I took that other job opportunity? What if I never moved out of NYC? What if I didn’t become a doctor but instead became a suit? We gazed across the busy waterfront of tourists and billionaire executive suites, Dan told me the story of a man he knew who created the modern man’s ultimate lifestyle. Living on a majestic estate in the country commuting to work by helicopter, landing on the roof of the office building owned by the company he had become chief executive of.

During a moment of silence we both visualized what it would feel like to have been lucky enough or hard working enough to live ‘the life.’ It was in that moment we experienced our shadow feeling the emotion of envy. Wishing we had the good fortune to fly a helicopter over the NY skyline. The moment passed and we went about the rest of our day until after noon. We sat down to watch the Yankees - Red Sox rivalry when the news reported that 9 people died earlier that day in a helicopter crash visible from our seats of envy.

Life never stops testing us and our ability to simply love and appreciate the life we’ve chosen. It is up to us to seize the opportunity to live OUR best life each and every day, never wishing we had someone else’s.

needy and frivilous

shadowdreamer — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 06:16:20 +0000

One of my shadows is that I feel needy so I try to prove I’m not. The question I have most is I have $$ problems. Not that I have no money..I have no healthy regard for money. I misuse it. What kind of shadow would that be?I live check to check and charge way too much and have too much overhead.

Can I use this site to grow? I purchased the film and watched it last night. Well done….I find myself driven by all of this yet not knowing exactly how to move forward.

IN Helping a New Client…..

Vesta — Thu, 13 Aug 2009 00:42:10 +0000

IN what I do with Tarot, Soul Energy Clearing, Reiki, Chakra realignment, Universal balance, Universal Link and Aromatherapy/Hot Stone massage… is to have the client take total responsibiltiy in their own journey, to be empowered on their pathworking and then I heard Jenny Devine (yes she is my Sis-in-law) NZ Integration Life Coach talk on TVHB (local TV station..) and Jenny discussed the Shadow Effect by Debbie Ford……. so I had to take a look, what Jenny was saying really hit a note… it hit the core of my heart…… and knowing what I had within me had to be acknowledged,accepted and then worked through………I watched the trailer, answered the questions in the starter kit and read through the articles, posts on here, listened to the free affirmations, prayers and looked at the worksheets…. I will listen to the meditations later at home when It is quiet(once children are asleep)……and know this is a process I must work through for myself if I am ever able to help others on their personal journey…..

The Shadow Effect- I recommend for anyone wanting to live whole within their life…… How can we live whole if we deny half of who we are? How can we be LightWorkers on any level if we do not do The Shadow Effect on some level? This is such an important process to have in our own lives…. all I can truly say from the core of my Heart… Thank You Debbie for putting this information out here in so many ways, Thank you for Jenny for following her heart and travelling the personal Journey she has and sharing with TVHB her knowledge and Thank you to her very loving and supportive partner (my Brother) for emailing me the info to watch and rewatch and rewatch……and for bringing me to this site to read reread reread reread and learn so much about the process, about The Shadow Effect…….This is now the Beginning of a new stage within my Cycle of life…….

Blessed Be!…

Vesta……

When “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Enough

Debbie — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 18:12:10 +0000

The media is once again bombarding us with headlines filled with toxic shame and bad behavior. It’s difficult to get the world news and find out what is really happening because no one wants to miss the opportunity to claim higher ratings, to sell more tabloid rags or to join in the frenzy and financial gain of gawking at the rich and famous. Today’s news was Chris Brown. The R&B star’s recent apology and guilty plea for assaulting his former girlfriend gives us yet another opportunity to get in touch with the out-of-control collective shadow that lurks beneath the surface of every one of us, even those who can claim political, financial, creative or material success. Who would have predicted a year ago that this multi-talented bestselling singer, dancer, and entertainer would be capable of beating his superstar girlfriend? While his therapy and remorse are worthy of note, beneath the surface of this young man is a pile of rage. Let’s not fool ourselves. If that rage is not continually confronted and taken seriously, he will more than likely end up striking another woman or, even worse, beating her to death. And, quite frankly, being sorry for beating the s–t out of his girlfriend is just not enough.

I want to be clear. I do not believe that any three or four year old aspires to grow up and damage the life of another or that they would find this an acceptable way to behave (unless they were missing a moral compass). I do not believe that Chris Brown, a young man with an entire world open to his gifts and talents, woke up one day and said, “I can’t wait to be a woman beater.” But the facts now prove that Chris Brown is someone capable of causing horrific pain. My heart goes out to this young man who has been blessed with enormous gifts and cursed with such a difficult issue.

This issue of violence is our collective responsibility. It is up to us to teach our youth how to deal with emotional problems, how to address the compulsions and impulses that bring men and women to their knees each day. It is time for all of us to see that we are sleep-walking through life if we think the issue will magically go away when we as a society can barely bring ourselves to admit how rampant the abuse of women is, whether it is emotional, psychological or physical. As I exposed in The Shadow Effect, on average, more than three women are murdered by their intimate partners every day. We must gather as one voice and say “Enough is enough.” It must stop now. It is time for us to collectively take responsibility for educating both the victims and the victimizers, the prey and the predators. We must stand strong together and say “No more!” We must make a commitment that we will not gather together in denial, ignoring the issues that plague our human existence. Instead, we must join together and break free from the bonds of our fear, shame, hurt and guilt. We must do our own work, knowing that when enough of us do that, others will benefit from our collective coming together and the healing of our own shame, fear and rage.

Not excusing his behavior, let’s acknowledge that Chris Brown is just another face of the unhealed shadow wounds. And if we don’t come out of denial (page 145 of Why Good People Do Bad Things) then tomorrow he will just be replaced by another poor soul who is a victim of society itself. He is not here for us to project our shame and horror on. Nor is he here for us to point our fingers at. He is here so that we may learn, grow and evolve and face our own dark, uncontrollable impulses. And ultimately, as we look at his behavior, we can be humble and grateful that we are not the ones acting out this horrific crime. We can close our eyes and thank God that we are not having to deal with this issue in our own lives as we silently murmur the prayer, “There but for the grace of God go I.”

Your Weekly Shadow Work

Do you use the bad behavior of others to justify your own not-so-bad behavior? Check out your own uncontrollable impulses. When will you handle them? What could you do this week to stand for the collective healing?

The Shadow Effect By Debbie Ford

ChanceIntuitive — Sat, 18 Jul 2009 02:13:43 +0000

Debbie Ford really hit it big time with this phenomenal movie Debbie created. This movie really project and open awareness how we are control by the world ,family,friends how we repress part of our self we hate. She really put out a big message out to the world explaining the (Shadow). I wish you the best Debbie there truly are some great opportunities coming towards you career.

Amazing “Coincidence”

Dan — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 12:48:11 +0000

Dear Debbie,

I love those little synchronicities that come to tell us we are in the right place at the right time. I just experienced one of my all time favorites while watching The Shadow Effect yesterday. I created a vision board about 8 months ago. The picture I included that was symbolic of “FREEDOM” for me just so happened to be the exact same picture that you used at the end of the movie (and when Deepak was talking).

I’m curious and would love to know what your intention was behind including that particular photo.

Thank you for your amazing contribution to what I am finding to be a HUGE missing piece of the puzzle.

Feeling Gratitude,

Dan